Stop Getting Played

“Is it something with me?” “I can’t seem to attract the right guys” “None of the guys I’ve met finds me interesting enough to be with”.  Any lady girl (who wants to stop being a girl these days?) living in the 21st century has most likely heard those statements or even told them to someone else themselves. There are women who’re frustrated with not being able to find the right kind of guys who’re interested enough to commit to a long-term “live happily ever after” kind of relationship. If you’re in this category, then you’re reading the right article. We’ll discuss a few things you can start doing right away to find happiness and maybe a nice lovely relationship with the guy of your dreams.

Stop Getting PlayedDecide what you want– Here’s where it all starts. When you don’t know what you want, you can’t ask for it. You then have no choice but to settle for whatever comes along. Figure out what your relationship needs are. Do you plan to settle down soon? Would your ideal relationship be intended towards marriage? Or are you comfortable with just a Friends with Benefits arrangement? Determine what you want in line with your personality and values. When you’ve decided on what you’re looking for, then don’t settle for less. Keep looking until you find what suits you.

Get a life- A significant portion of contemporary female folk still view themselves through the lens of their romantic or sexual relationships. They hinge their reputation and sense of self-esteem on how rich or influential their boyfriend/husband (or potential boyfriend/husband) is. This is wrong. Develop a life of your own. Work harder at your job, build your career, and grow a business. Be self-dependent. A rich, healthy and successful woman is far sexier than a gorgeous hottie whose only assets are her curves.

Drop the attitude- The harlequin novels you read in high school may have taught you that being coy and playing hard to get is the best way to get men to want you. Sorry sweetie, nothing could be further from the truth. While you shouldn’t sell yourself cheap or appear too eager to jump into bed. You shouldn’t also keep a guy waiting unnecessarily. If he’s asking you out and you like him, let him know. Life is short and really intelligent guys know this. They won’t wait around forever, so why not just drop the attitude and be true to your feelings.

Be detached- “Desire is suffering” This is a saying that has been attributed to the Buddhist view on sex, but it’s quite applicable to this discussion. When you want something too desperately, you begin to believe that your happiness depends on it. You get sad when you don’t have it. Detachment is the perfect panacea for a situation like this. If there’s a guy you like or a relationship you dream of having. Convince yourself that you will be fine if you don’t have it. The point here is not to start hating the things you love. Rather it’s to be content in spite of not having them and be grateful just in case you find them.


How to Know if You Like Someone

What Steps Can You Take to Find Out if You Really Like Someone?

Generally liking someone is different from being sexually attracted to them. The first thing to do is to spend time with the person and get to know them. Not on dates (you can do that too) but more day to day stuff and some fun activities. You want to see how they react when things are going well and also not so well. Do they give others credit when things go well or do they take the credit, brag and are happy winning at other peoples expense? If things aren’t going well, do they whine or do they figure out how to fix things and move forward.

Why is Someone Attractive?

Sure, some people are physically attractive and it is natural to be attracted to them. They may be nice and they may be awful.  People can also impress with their intelligence. Is that all you are attracted to or is there something else inside them that attracts you as well?

Do You Think of the Person Often?

It is a good sign if you think about the other person multiple times throughout the day. Obviously they should be happy thoughts and they shouldn’t just be sexual thoughts.

Do You Laugh at Their Jokes?

Granted, some jokes need more of an eye roll, but if you like someone, you tend to laugh at things they say even if they aren’t super funny. It shows appreciation and connection. Don’t fake it though. People can tell a fake laugh a mile away. If you are forcing it, something is wrong.

Repeating Conversations

If you find yourself telling a number of other people about conversations you have had with someone, it is an indication you found the conversation important and that you value and like the person.

Connections

If you plan where you are going to be so that you are more likely to bump into someone, you probably like them. Kind of obvious point, but there it is.

Butterflies

If you get butterflies when you are around someone, it is pretty obvious that you like them.

Touch

Does light accidental touch send shivers through you? One more sign you really like someone.

Distractions

If you are doing something you really like and you are still thinking about the other person, you definitely like them. Time for the next step and ask them out.